It seems resolutions are worthless, well for me at least. The promises we make to ourselves are quickly broken because we find it hard to be accountable to ourselves. I – for one – find it hard to be motivate myself in a lot of ways, although a lot of prayer and thoughtfulness has helped with an increase in motivation recently. Resolutions won’t do though, they don’t work, there’s better ways to make commitments to ourselves in the new year.
A few years ago our Pastor suggested ordering plans and priorities in the new year to help with thinking about what is truly important that we dedicate our time to and what not so much. This has helped me a lot. Sometimes what we imagine our priorities to be are just that- imaginations, reality says different. Whether I spent so many hours watching tv last year or goofing on the internet for example, in reality time spent on these things takes time away from the things that I want to be priorities in my life. If I can begin to make my imagined priorities my actual priorities this year then I am succeeding, even if it is a little at a time. This keeps me from feeling like I have failed my resolution. Also, I am able to make plans based on those priorities for the coming year.
When I didn’t buy clothes for over a year it was not necessarily because I didn’t want new clothes, I mean who doesn’t want new clothes, but I set a priority of Less Stuff (of living simple, less materialistically) and was able to spend a significant amount of effort toward that goal and accomplished it in my home and in my wardrobe, although I have a long way to go still-in regards to simplicity. Making a priority and then a plan helped me to see clearly my goals and take step toward them. Every little step counted and helped me on my way to accomplishing it.
Let me share that I am a major procrastinator and ball dropper. I either procrastinate until I have no other choice but to accomplish a task or just drop the ball altogether. I think it must be in my nature because I remember being this way as a child but that isn’t an excuse because I want to be a finisher, a race winner. So number one thing I have to do is pray because only God can change my nature, I am 100% sure of that.
So this year I’ve begun to outline the things that I want to take priority in my life and then make plans based on those priorities. Priorities range from home life to personal and I will share with you what I have so far. It is a process and now that I have set my priorities for the year I have started to contemplate my plans for each. Things that I would like to see happen. So in no particular order, here they are:
1. Faith- This is a primary priority because without Faith I am hopeless. 2013 was a year that God helped me begin to unravel from depression and hopelessness and show me to delight in my circumstances, so 2014 will be even more so a testament to what He is doing. I will continue to study and trust more. I want to be more thankful as well this year.
2.Family- Instead of busy-ness, instead of this activity or that event, instead of every kind of distraction I want my family to be a priority and for us to find peacefulness in our home and with each other. This means we will continue in traditions like Sunday Radio Day, no media except music or talk radio. Also, we will make more intentional time together and less sitting around the tv.
3.Home- This is related to the care and cultivating of the home. I want my home to be simple, beautiful and help my family to thrive, so I am making an effort to make it so through the simplest of measures.
4.Homeschool- The past ten months we’ve had a new baby in the house and now that that new baby is somewhat an old baby we have gotten into better rhythms at home, especially in regards to school for Emma. As long as she’s learning truth, beauty, and goodness through her schooling we are doing something right.
5.Mother Culture (Self Care and Interests ex. staying healthy-eating healthy, gym time and reading for pleasure and knowledge)- It is helping me to think of getting healthy as a thing I am doing to help myself and my children in the context of being a Mother opposed to some arbitrary goal I set for myself. My goal for this is more health, more wisdom.
6.Art- I never completed art school and I am down on myself a lot about it, in 2013 both Kenny started actively pursuing Art making more in our lives and this year I want that to ripen even more. Whether it’s photography or printmaking, I want to see more art making this year. I’ve started making plans based on this and am just praying for the occasional quiet times to work on these.
7.Writing/Blogging-I want to be more consistent with my writing and blogging without being overly ambitious. One plan that I am thinking of is setting a manageable schedule for me to work on this. Something easy-like twice a week, just to write out some of the things I have rolling around in my head.
That is all I have so far and there always room for additions. Plans will be made this year and because they are based on the things nearest and dearest I pray-with God’s help-I can accomplish them. Also a little note about getting healthy, since I started tracking I have lost 7+ lbs. and have lost about 17 lbs. since having Alice. It isn’t a lot but I am encouraged that setting priorities like this will help me make priorities real and not imagined.